My Friend Stranded Me Up North

Who I Used To Be

For those of you that don’t know, I used to be a pretty horrible person. I would steal from people that I knew and even people I didn’t know. I would cheat and lie to anyone. I really didn’t care that much about myself or others. I was also incredibly stupid. Sometimes I would make stupid choices just to see what would happen. It wasn’t the best idea.

An example of how stupid I used to be came when I was 18 and camping up near Brainerd with some friends. I was on a lot of drugs and let’s just say I was acting obnoxiously happy. I felt invincible. Like no one could touch me.

I was so obnoxious that the people camping next to us decided to leave because they were convinced that the police were going to show up because of my behavior.

I made it through the night somehow. I don’t even remember if I slept or not.

We then packed up and left our camping spot. My best friend was driving his dad’s Audi which was in pristine condition.

As I was sitting in the back seat, I thought it was as good of a time as any to spark up a bowl.

My friend looked back and said “Dude, put that out! We’re in my dad’s car. We can’t smoke in here!”

So, I put the bowl away. But only momentarily.

A couple of mins later, I lit the bowl up again and inhaled the marijuana.

As soon as I exhaled the smoke, my buddy turned around again, this time more frustrated.

“Dude, seriously? I told you not to smoke that stuff in here! If you do that again, I’m going to kick you out and leave you up here,” he said.

I didn’t believe him, or I just didn’t care.

So, I lit the bowl a third time.

As soon as I did, he slammed on his breaks and pulled over onto a little frontage road.

He got out of the driver’s side and open my door, which was directly behind him.

“Get out!” he shouted.

I was a little taken aback because I didn’t believe he’d actually kick me out of his car. I mean we were like 100 miles north of where we lived.

“No!” I screamed back. “There’s no way I’m getting out. You’re crazy.”

As we were fighting, his cousin who was seated beside me in the backseat grabbed my phone and exited the car. He handed my phone to my friend and then my friend threatened to throw my phone.

“I’m going to chuck your phone into the woods if you don’t get out of my car!”

I still didn’t think he’d stand me up there. I didn’t think he’d toss my phone in the woods either.

“I dare you…” I said.

In disbelief and frustration, my friend cocked his arm back and threw my phone into the woods as hard as he could.

“You dick!” I yelled.

I got out of the car and as I exited, I grabbed a bag full of tacos from Taco Bell that we had purchased on the way home.

“Fine! I’ll get out but I’m taking the tacos!” I screamed.

“I don’t care…” My friend said.

He then hopped back in the car and began to pull away.

As he was slowly driving away, I ran up behind his car and threw the bag of tacos at the back of his dad’s car as hard as I could.

The car then stopped and was placed in park.

My friend got out of the car and began to charge me.

Now, my friend was in the National Guard for 6 years and he was a little bit bigger than me. I didn’t want any piece of him.

So, as he charged me, I galivanted into the woods in the direction that he threw my phone.

My friend, realizing that he had scared me off, jumped back into his dad’s Audi and drove off.

I was then left up north 100 miles from my house with no phone and nowhere to go.

I didn’t care though. In fact, I thought my friend was in the wrong for leaving me up there. I didn’t think I did anything wrong.

But in retrospect, I was a pretty bad friend.

I should’ve just respected my buddy’s wish to not smoke weed in his dad’s Audi. I mean, that’s a pretty reasonable request, right?

I didn’t think so at the time. But that’s who I was back then.

Someone who didn’t care about the feelings/thoughts/wishes of others. And someone that would sacrifice the well-being of others for my own gain.

Selfish – that’s a good word to describe how I was.

Thank God I’m not that person anymore.

Who I Am Today

For those wondering, my friend and I ended up reconciling. We forgave each other for that episode and we’re actually best friends today!

I honestly don’t know where I’d be without him and his loving support.

Today, I actually cringe at the thought of encroaching on someone’s boundaries so badly.

Everyone is different and I can’t control the boundaries of others, but I can control how I interact with those boundaries.

I, obviously, can also control my intake of chemicals.

And I’ve realized that chemicals and I just don’t mix.

I hurt my friends, family, and myself when I’m messed up. And I don’t deal with any of my root problems.

Thank God I almost have 7 years clean at the time of this publication (7 years on October 20th).

If there’s one thing I learned from this episode, it would be to respect people’s boundaries and forgive quickly.

I was slightly bitter with my friend for a while for stranding me up north. But I had to forgive him because, like chemicals, bitterness and I don’t get along.

If you’re having quarrels with your friends, be sure to forgive quickly and respect their decisions.

You may not be friends forever but doing those things will make you a better person in the long run.

Take care, respect people, and forgive others.